Do miss you over here…I’d go find you but I’m lazy and have no internet at home. Going through a divorce and getting the kiddies where they need to be seems to be a new full time job.
Posted by Roxy on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 7:34 PM
Thank you! I got the form to work (above) where you can have it delivered to your e-mail every morning. Although for some reason it doesn’t work with comcast.net e-mail addresses…so it might not work with others either. Comcast sees it as spam and sends it to a black hole somewhere.
Posted by Stephanie on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 7:43 PM
I just blogged the other day about missing your ability to draw comment from a broad community. I don’t get much opposition in my blogging and I would welcome it. I thought you a very unique writer always remaining true to your own beliefs and at the same time uniting others in comment whether in support or dispute. I told you you would be missed. I never thought of myspace as only single. Anyhow, thanks for visiting. I’d like to see a comeback but it is your life.
Thank you! It’s a hard thing to explain…but blogs about recipes and marriage and that sort of thing never really do well here. This particular blogging community is a different group. I think in general, I’ve noticed that married people and moms tend to gravitate to Facebook or blogging on Blogger. I could be wrong, though. I usually am!
Posted by Stephanie on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 7:45 PM
Though I do understand why you did it, you know we still all miss you, at least I do. I’m happy that you have found a good place to write. Congrats on your life going so well!
Thank you! I saw somewhere I was blamed for people leaving MySpace in droves. I laughed. A few joined me over on Blogger but I really don’t think anyone exited to Blogger because of me…they were already ready to make some sort of leap. It’s just exhausting, after a while, being called names every day. When you’re almost 40 years old and secure with who you are, you don’t see it the same way as you do when you’re younger or maybe more insecure.
Posted by Stephanie on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 7:50 PM
It’s a shame anyone who’s on top gets targeted but they do. It’s just the way alot of people operate. Jealousy, revenge….. Instead of just focusing on themselves. Blogger does seem much safer, but i still think anywhere will have it’s dramas. Especially social networking sites, they are a slice of the real world. It’s just a matter of how much you can avoid them. I have to say I was always impressed at how gracefully you handled it.
Posted by Goin’ to Cali !! on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 7:50 PM
I mostly was unaware of it unless someone told me. And after a while no one told me anymore. They just figured I knew, I guess, but the only thing I dealt with were the nasty comments, which I’d remove because I was (to be honest) embarrassed to have such childishness on my blog. At the time I was using my MySpace blog’s link in query letters to agents and editors and I wanted to at least somewhat look as though my readers had sanity and class. I’m sure you can imagine what an editor would say if she saw some of that stuff…pictures of naked people, name-calling for no apparent reason… At least breech an intelligent argument if you disagree with someone. Make yourself look like you weren’t raised in a barn. That was my take on it, anyway. People disagree with me on Blogger all the time. Caroline makes it her calling to disagree with me every day, I think! But she’s always intelligent and polite and voices it in a way where I actually often say, “You know, maybe she has a good point.”
But a top blog on MySpace has maybe 5,000 readers, even in MySpace’s heyday. That’s not a top blog in the real world. In the real world to be a “celebrity blogger,” your readership would need to be in the millions. Or at least hundreds of thousands. This is like being the head cheerleader in high school, then graduating and realizing you have to start all over again because it’s a BIG world out there. Actually, that’s exactly what this has been like!
Posted by Stephanie on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 7:55 PM
Thank you! It’s a nail-biting experience. Last I heard, one editor was “definitely interested” but nothing since… I learned long ago that publishing is a slow process.
Posted by Stephanie on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 8:26 PM
Shortly after the days you left, I had to do some research as to why. I stumbled upon some ugly things. I had no idea you were being pulled into unnecessary drama. Now I totally understand why you bolted.
I’m glad to hear things are going well for you now. Wishing you much luck in all of your writing endeavors.
Posted by Michael Angelo on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 8:25 PM
Yeah…it was tough at times. It wasn’t even as bad toward the end as
it had been. I think I just got to the point where I was already
feeling like I needed a change? And at that point even the slightest
hateful comment got to me. Once I announced I was leaving, though, it
got really ugly for a while. All that did was confirm that I’d made the
right decision…but then I realized 90 percent of the people here are
great. It’s that other 10 percent that ruin it for everyone. I pity people who have that low self-esteem that attacking others
gives them pleasure. I hope they can eventually find a more productive
hobby.
Posted by Stephanie on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 8:28 PM
Well I, for one, am really glad to see you here and to know you’re doing well, and am so sorry you had to cope with despicable spiteful bullies. They’ll get their karma.
You were the first person who befriended me when I was new to myspace, and I discovered some other wonderful people through your blogs who have become good friends. I wish you all the very very best Stephanie.  {{{BIG hugs 4U}}}
Posted by â Dominique â on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 8:59 PM
Thank you! I always thought one of the best things about my blog was the friendships that were made through it. A couple of people even met people they fell in love with in the comments of my blog. That’s a great feeling.
I believe karma for them is in the fact that they spend countless hours every week over here tearing other people down. Maybe that brings them joy but it just doesn’t seem like much of a life to me. It’s much more rewarding to lift people up and focus on the things and people we love in life. So much time and energy is wasted on hate…what’s the point? The opposite of love isn’t hate. The opposite of love is indifference. I’ve noticed that since I’ve gone, none of that hate has stopped. It’s just directed at other people. Will those same people still be on here two years from now, trashing each other and others? Or will they marry, have kids, settle into a life that actually provides something productive to society.
Posted by Stephanie on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 9:03 PM
Awwww, never take any comments on the web personal. Some people just get a kick out of slinging random insults. I don’t understand it, but it happens everywhere online
Posted by Paris Love on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 9:23 PM
I do read you over at Blogger but I dont think your blogs are quite as good as when you were writing about the single life. They seemed edgier as you were writing from a painful experience, which everyone can identify with.
Still remember the last blog that you wrote here and the “all aboard”, lets get on the “Farris Ferry”, and its still a question that comes to mind, do you write for the kudos, view numbers or blog rankings? Or do you write to get to know people?Â
Glad that you are making progress to getting that book deal and that coupled life is rosy. Comments set to approval, well they should have been from the get go considering how much interest your blog got, lesson learned I gather.
You still driving that crappy Honda?Â
Happy that you are happy, so whats next, adoption or pumping out a baby? Seasons greetings and best wishes, less than a month to go!!
Posted by Mr Waldo on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 9:34 PM
It’s Faris with one r but everyone always does that! Since I’m writing
on a site that has no kudos or rankings, I think the answer is clear. I always wrote because I can’t NOT write. (I know, double negative, but it captures it best!) It’s like breathing to me. I posted on MySpace because it was a community of single people who seemed to be looking for the same things I do out of life.
I’m sorry you find my recent blogs lacking. Being an aspiring young adult author, I have certain responsibilities. I can’t post the same kinds of blogs I used to…and I don’t really want to. I don’t want to be “edgy” or upset people. I just want to write and interact with others. Those who read me over there seem to really like it…and I don’t think they’d be interested in the MySpace kind of edgy blogs.
I love my Honda!
Posted by Stephanie on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 10:09 PM
You have the ability to write whatever you want, dont be sorry, saying sorry means you have done something wrong, which you havent, its just that the topics you write dont interest or are irrelevant to me.
Thats ok, because someone here has continued to write on the topic, hes
recently married ( which proves you can STILL write about it even if youre not single ) and written with lots of comedy with his cartoon depictions, he should write a book on the topic as his blogs are pure gold!! You know who that person is.
You could and DID write like that but you have a different audience now, you can bring back that laughter, perhaps “edgy” was too harsh a word to use.
Sorry for incorrectly spelling your surname Ms Faris
Posted by Mr Waldo on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 11:11 PM
Part of it is, a lot of energy is going into my novel-writing now so it makes sense that my blogging has changed…but that was a different time in my life. My voice reflected it at that time. To be honest, I’ve read some of those past blogs and I don’t really like me all that much, if that makes sense.
No biggie on the name misspelling…just want to make sure you guys know how to find me someday! But I realized my boyfriend was with me six months before he figured out my last name only had one r in it. I still tease him about that!
Posted by Stephanie on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 11:14 PM
Thats fantastic Stephanie. So happy you are happy and I hope it only gets better. Ghost Hunting, never would have thought you were into that. I am too, but I mostly research it and I have a few shows I watch. So glad you stopped in to tell us whats going on in your life now. My step daughter is on blogger. She’s has like a make-up blog. Anyways, You sound so happy and to be honest I have tears in my eyes because I love to hear about people being exciting about their lives. Whether it be their career or family life and you have both. Thats great!!!! I’m just a simple housewife living in Coal Country and raising my kid the best I can. And hoping one day Mountain Top Removal stops and we can move on to bigger and better things. Blessings in everything you do…
In 2006, just a few months after I started blogging here, I spent the last half of October posting ghost stories on my blog. People weren’t all that interested. I did that on Blogger for October (”Scary Saturdays”) and people seemed to love it. It just depends on the audience, I guess, but you quickly learn what works and doesn’t work on MySpace and there are many things that don’t work here…history, current events (unless they have an edge), momhood, recipes, crafts…
Posted by Stephanie on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 10:10 PM
I still remember you. I would have headed over to blogger but It’s hard to find the time for just the Myspace.
I was going to tell you a few months ago in Nashville I saw you downtown. It was right before the CMA. You were with the new BF and a girl I didn’t recognize. Buy the time I figured out it was you my food had arrived and you were eating too so I didn’t want to interrupt you guys.
It’s good to get paid for writing even if it’s just a little. Why should Myspce be the only one getting rich.
Posted by Richard 1.0 on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 10:11 PM
Downtown? Was it at lunchtime? What restaurant was it? I’m trying to think… I rarely go downtown on weekends but I’m not familiar with what day of the week the CMAs are…it just strikes a familiar chord. I seem to remember being somewhere where we were affected by CMA traffic.
Posted by Stephanie on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 10:12 PM
it was on Boadway in the early evening at a sports bar about about two days before CMA festival, It might have been Jack’s but I’m not sure. It was light outside when I arrived.
The place had lots of big sceens with football on them.
Posted by Richard 1.0 on November 21, 2009 - Saturday - 1:41 AM
Thank you! I do see I get hundreds of views a day but very few comment. Even when I login here, I’m seeing that 100+ people still visit my blog every day, so I’m thinking they’re clicking through to the new one.
Posted by Stephanie on November 20, 2009 - Friday - 10:27 PM
Seasons greetings and best wishes, less than a month to go!! 
